At dinner last night, we started talking about “The Law of Attraction” and whether anyone of us had ever actually tried it.
Law of Attraction: You attract into your life whatever you think about most.
My answer at the dinner table was “Nope, never really tried it”. And then I realised I was quite wrong.
The way I handle my horizons of focus – which contains my wishlist for my best life – is very much in line with the law of attraction.
So I retracted my earlier statement and told my dinner companions exactly what I’m about to tell you.
Deciding to dream
About 3 or 4 years ago I started feeling very uninspired and stuck in a complete rut.
I felt like I was going through the motions each day but none of those actions were getting me anywhere.
And furthermore, I didn’t know where I would even want to go.
I realised I was dreaming of nowhere, and moving to nowhere.
So …. I decided to change that. If I was going to work hard, I might as well hard towards something.
I pulled up my goals list, did a fresh brainstorm and created a mindmap of what I thought that direction could be.
At the end of that session, I had a mindmap with 47 nodes.
I’ll share with you the highest level of that mindmap.
Some of the nodes in that map included:
- Take a summer vacation every year
- Exercise regularly
- Laugh every day
- Build one good habit at a time
All good things. Not particularly actionable. But it was a start.
Keeping the dream going
Once I put these into a mindmap it freed me up from thinking in terms of a list. I could do many more things with this life vision.
- I could cross-link items,
- I could drill-down further and really elaborate on what each node meant,
- I could add pictures or quotes or website links for inspiration,
- I could start tagging what was in progress or done,
- and more importantly, I could link to my runway (projects and next actions) that was housed in my list manager.
And once I started that linking, it freed up my thinking. I no longer felt constrained by my day to day task list.
I reviewed my mindmap during my weekly review – adding ideas and wishes from my inbox to my mindmap, comparing it to my action lists in case there was a project I wanted to create – and bit by bit my mindmap grew.
My dream today
Today, it looks very different.
I organise my horizons of focus now by 10 categories.
My mindmap now has 756 nodes, and it keeps growing.
And… it’s a dream in action.
I have marked 153 of them as complete. That’s almost 3 times as many as I started with!
The keys is that each node is wirtten and marked in such a way that my entire mindmap, is actionable.
So no matter how fuzzy the inbox item is that gets into this mindmap, I just process it like I would an item that ends up on my list manager. Each inbox item becomes or is decomposed into an area of responsibility, an area of focus, a project, a next action, or a habit. And everyone of those types, I know how to action.
And that has been clearly demonstrated in the last 3.5 years. I have moved from have a random list of vision items to a clearly defined vision of 756 well-written items and 153 of those marked as completed.
And that feeling of being stuck in a rut is no more. I feel well aligned to what I want in life… and I’ve attracted at least 153 of those things into my life. 😉
In the next parts of this blog series, I describe how I created my initial mindmap, how I evolved it over time, how I process my mindmap to generate projects & next actions, and how I keep my vision connected to my runway. So do share what you’d like to learn or contribute to the series, and do stay tuned.
Next series post: From dreams to actions … Part 2: Create your vision